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Love Never Dies. Chapter Four. Tale of one friend's marriage. Autumn.

Autumn was left with virtually nothing following the storm. She was able to return to the apartment and recover some clothing and small items, but most everything was destroyed by the wind, rain and the physical impact of the tree and roof collapsing on our home. The whole situation seemed surreal to me, but Autumn's life seems to take many surreal turns. Autumn wasn't sure where to she was to live. Her apartment was actually a condominium and while the owner was, of course, going to get the place repaired, it could take months. It didn't seem the owner offered to do anything to help Autumn in the interim and I guess their lease didn't have any provisions requiring the owner to do so. She tried to crash for the short term on a couch of a friend and his wife, but she didn't buy into the idea. One night she slept under her desk at work, being discovered the next day. She dismisses this as not significant. I don't buy it. Add that she was carrying on a relation...

Love Never Dies. Chapter three. Tale of one friend's marriage. Autumn.

Autumn had worked as a government contractor for the same firm for roughly a decade. She had been able to work from home for most of this time, making it very plausible to maintain the position some 40 plus miles away in one of the nation's heaviest traffic regions and to give birth and raise her 2 begin raising her 2 boys. However, Autumn never really wanted to move this far away from her office. She didn't want to move far away from being "inside the beltway," not because of political ambitions, but just it was what she had grown to be comfortable with in the region and felt it best for her and her family overall. It was Dave that decided to move them further out. Ironically, Dave was also born and raised inside the beltway and his large family is mostly still there with whom he maintains regular contact. Autumn reluctantly moved after the birth of their first son for Dave. Autumn secured her work from home assignment mostly for Dave. Autumn sat without any advanc...

Love Never Dies. Chapter Two. Tale of one friend's marriage. Autumn

I have 3 female friends and family members presently going through or recently have been through a divorce. I want to share some of their stories. I am not using real names so they remain apart of my life and I don't potentially harm their children. First off, the divorce of Autumn... Autumn and I have been friends since high school. I don't really recall how she came to join our group that day, but she joined us on a day trip to an amusement park. It's the 80's, so 6 of us load up in my Oldsmobile and jump on the NJ Turnpike and are off to Great Adventure, all 14-17 years old. Our parents didn't have GPS tracking from the smartphones we didn't have and no adult chaperone. They just assumed we'd find our way home by around 11 pm that evening, two hours after the park closed. In this case, I don't recall our really doing anything that stood out in our activities, but I was new to the school, having transferred to public school from a private school in...

Love Never Dies. Part One.

I've come to realize again and again as an adult that this is simply not true. In my opinion, in general, men, at least those I know around my age, find it harder to fall in love, tend to be more afraid of commitment, but then lock themselves in and are not quick to leave an empty marriage.  This doesn't mean they won't cheat, but they are more secure with the life they know the world unknown. Women have historically felt a need to succumb to pressures to appease societal expectations, first and foremost those of family waiting for the wedding, the children, the home, etc. Men do face some of this pressure, but not nearly to the same extent and in most cases, men can more easily suppress such family pressure and in today's world, their friend's and workplace are not as likely to be questioning or pressuring their "family values."  I do believe, in general, women are more prone to want to be in relationships and have a family and while much more committed...